Fatherhood And The Neighborhood


Grandchildren are the crown of the aged, and the glory of children is their fathers.

~Proverbs 17:6, ESV


Children find their security in the knowledge of their father’s love.

~Ray Comfort

The family is the first divine institution and is the building block for society. No chain is stronger than it’s weakest link and family is the links that make a society strong and stable. In the last 50 years we have seen the erosion of the family and the government has not helped. Socialism enables irresponsible fathers. The father is the priest, provider and protector of the home. Our culture puts most of the emphasis on motherhood but the father is an indispensable part of the family. In America, fathers have shirked their responsibility to raise their own children and it is having a devastating effect on society.¬†According to the U.S. census bureau, 24 million children, 1 out of 3, live without their biological father in the home. Consequently, there is a father factor in nearly all social ills facing America today. Solomon said, “The father is to be the glory of the children.” This word glory comes from a word that means ornament: the father is to be someone the children are proud of, someone they boast about, someone they honor and treasure. When the father is absent, the child is robbed of his or her glory. A father cannot be the glory of his children when he is not present or in some cases known.

On any give day, a half million kids are placed into foster care. After WWII orphanages spring up all over the world to take care of children who parents had died in the war but the children in orphanages today having parents who are totally irresponsible. Our welfare system awards women for have babies out of wedlock and it has created a huge problem that no one can fix. Do you have any idea how many foster children attend DBC? I don’t really know myself but I would guess at least a dozen. While we deeply admire our foster parents for their courage and sacrifice, they cannot possible fix the problem. I am a former foster parent and I know from experience what it can cost to bring these children into your homes. There was a time when I thought love could fix any problem but the problem that irresponsible fathers and mothers have created cannot be fixed by our love and care. We cannot become adequate substitutes for their biological parents. I know, I have tried. There is something genetically in these children that causes them to crave the love of their biological parents.

Children raised without the influence of the biological father resort to a self-preservation mode and they will lie, cheat , steal, and do whatever it takes to survive. They become excuse makers and just as irresponsible as their parents. They learn early on how to con and munipulate others and from their standpoint, it is simply a matter of survival in a cruel world that has rejected them. Without that father figure to glory in, they are apt to disrespect teachers, law enforcement, and even those who attempt to give them care. There are exceptions but they are few and far between. I am not trying to discourage any foster parent: things would be much worse without you but foster care is not the solution to the problem. Our government has got to stop enabling irresponsible parents. They are having babies to draw checks. The checks need to stop. Fathers who will not work to provide need to be fixed. Paul said, “If they will not work, take their meal ticket.” {JEV}

I’ve probably said to much but one more thing: one of my favorite all time movies is Rob Roy because of it’s strong pro-life stance. Rob’s wife was rapped by a vile man. She wanted to get rid of the baby but Rob said, “The baby is not the one who needs to die.” Rob, a poor highlander but brave heart, avenged his wife’s rape by slaying the rapist. I wish these idiots in Hollywood and Washingtion could get it through their thick skulls that abortion is not the answer, killing the children is not the solution. The problem is irresponsible adults having sex when they have no intention of raising a child and these are exactly the folks that Hollywood and the Washington insiders are encouraging.

One other thing: the crown of life is becoming a grand parent–trust me, there is nothing like it. Irresponsible parents never get to experience the blessing of being a grandparent. This is why I always try to get couples to fast forward 20 years before they go through with a divorce. When you get my age, nothing other than Jesus is going to be more important than your grands. There are a lot of irresponsible men who are going to die all alone because they put their interest before that of their children. One of my grand kids asks his uncle why he didn’t do things that he did in his 20’s and I interrupted: “Because he got married and had children and once he did that, his life was over and it is no longer about him, it is about them [his family].” He is a good son-in-law and he gave me a thumbs up. Thank God for men like him who take fatherhood seriously. I am through now!

Lord willing, I am going to Vanderbilt today.

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