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Invisible scars are those deep hurts and wounds that can’t be seen, but still cause real pain and anguish.

~Lisa M. Samra [ODB]

Most of us carry scars that no one can see. Sometimes we reveal our scars in what we say or do but if one has a mind to, they can be kept buried for no one to see. There is no doubt in my mind that any form of rejection can be damaging. Even teenagers get their hearts broken over what we adults call puppy love. It can cause you to go days without eating or sleeping. There is an old proverb in the counseling world, “Hurting people, hurt others.” It is not always intentional but the natural response of the hurting is to hurt. The bitterness and the insecurity these people carry on the inside make it almost impossible for them to have enduring relationships. There is hope and healing but it begins with honestly.

Several years ago a movie came out called OCTOBER BABY. It was based on a true story. It was based on the life of Gianna Jessen who was born prematurely and suffered to survive. Her birth mother wanted nothing to do with her and gave her up for adoption with the understanding that she wanted no relationship with the child in the future. Gianna was adopted by a Physician and was raised in a good Christian home but due to the birth mother’s attitude, they never told Gianna that she was adopted. When she found out, she felt betrayed and thought that her whole life was based on a lie so she set out to find her birth mother. Her adopted parents tried to protect her but nothing doing. Eventually, she locates her birth mother and the woman is a pure beast: she reject the child again. Tells her up front that she wants nothing to do with her and that she is not to contact her again. Twice rejected by her birth mother, yet Gianna bounces back. She comes to the conclusion that it is the birth mother’s lose and she moves on with her life.

Some thirty years ago, a young man here in Morgan county called his birth mother {whom he had never lived with} on Mother’s Day to thank her for giving him birth {unfortunately at my suggestion}. She told him to never call her again. She said, “I don’t want to see you nor your child.” Not to far from this man’s house, two young boys lived in a mobile home. I can’t remember their ages but they were both in their middle teens: for too young to be without parents. Their daddy whom they had lived with died and they biological mother was living less than ten miles away [this was in Lawrence County]. She told the boys not to call her for anything. She assured them that she cared nothing about either one of them and that they were on their own. When the oldest of the two shared this with me, I wept.

Folks I can go on and on but due to counseling protocol and can’t share all my stories. Trust me, I have more. What I am saying is this: most people have been hurt somewhere along the way and there are scars, deep emotional scars. Although these people rarely if ever mention these hurts, they think about them practically everyday. Most children get hurt by people they love; people that they trusted. They never stop loving these people and they will not divulge the truth to protect those they love. It is their way of being a hero; they carry the pain so as not to bring shame on someone they loved. Unless you are a trained counselor, you probably don’t know who these hurting people are. They have learned lots of ways to hide the scars.

It would be good for you if you came clean with Jesus. He already know who did what: He was watching and He knows all about it. He loves you anyway. What happen to you does not diminish His love for you, not one bit. He is a great counselor. Plus MBA has a professional counselor on staff. I plan to visit him soon. It is a safe place to bare your soul. It will help you. No one will be hurt by sharing with a professional counselor. It is a safe place.

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A little brisk this morning. It wakes you up and gets you going. I did have me some good chicken stew yesterday. I kid you not, I plowed the garden and there was dust. I don’t think we got a drop of rain last week. It is almost dry enough to mow the ditch. I may try it today or tomorrow.

I hope you have a great day and a great weekend. Wouldn’t it be great if we could have Easter attendance two weeks in a row. Have a great day and thanks for reading the blog.